“You can view empathy as one of the hallmarks of emotional intelligence. It has a special role to play in just about every theory of emotional intelligence.”
Steven J. Stein
You have the power . . .
"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself but to your own estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment"
Marcus Aurelius
We discover the depth of our own compassion . . .
"When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion."
Marshall B. Rosenberg
The greatest conflicts . . .
“The greatest conflicts are not between two people but between one person and himself.”
Garth Brooks
Accept emotions directly, as they are!
"The key is to not resist or rebel against emotions or to try to get around them by devising all sorts of tricks; but to accept them directly, as they are."
Takahisa Kora
Become more conscious of our feeling-world . . .
"We have to become more conscious of our feeling-world. By learning to identify the ‘emotional baggage’ and manage our feeling-world reactions, we can view life based on current information instead of being held captive by our past."
Doc Childre
Personal and emotional!
"Within-group conflict is always personal and emotional -- even if it begins with impersonal issues."
Kenneth Kaye
The right to be ourselves . . .
"We know from our experience that it is easier to develop trust in another person or in a group if we believe that we can disagree, and we will not be abandoned or hurt for our differences. It is difficult to trust those who deny us the right to be ourselves."
Susan Wheelan
If you’re empathic . . .
“If you’re empathic, you’re more likely to gain the cooperation of others because you show concern about their welfare. If you act in a self-serving of callous manner, people are more likely to avoid you.”
Steven J. Stein
Emotional intelligence at its best . . .
“Being able to enter flow is emotional intelligence at its best; flow represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performance and learning. In flow the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energized, and aligned with the task at hand.”
Daniel Goleman
A stimulus for our feelings . . .
“The behavior of others may be a stimulus for our feelings, but not the cause. We are never angry because of what someone else did...It’s not what the other person does, but the images and interpretations in my own head that produce my anger.”
Marshall Rosenberg
How you react . . .
"Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it."
Lou Holtz
Calm your fears . . .
"If you're not able to calm your fears, your fears will take over."
Wes Skiles
Til we answer from within . . .
"Our very life depends on everything's recurring til we answer from within."
Robert Frost
Emotional management and responsibility . . .
"A benchmark of emotional management and responsibility is the realization that our past can no longer be blamed for our actions in the present."
Doc Childe and Howard Martin
Whether y . . .our anger is justified or not
"Physiologically, it simply doesn't matter whether your anger is justified or not. The body doesn't make moral judgments about feelings; it just responds."
Doc Childre and Howard Martin
Empathy is used in three distinct senses . . .
“In today’s psychology, the word ‘empathy’ is used in three distinct senses: Knowing another person’s feelings; feeling what that person feels; and responding compassionately to another’s distress. These three varieties of empathy seem to describe a 1-2-3 sequence: I notice you. I feel with you, and so I act to help you.”
Daniel Goleman
How you made them feel!
"They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel."
Maya Angelou
A willingness to listen!
"Sensitivity to others is no trivial skill; rather, it is a truly precious human ability. But it isn't complex: it requires receptiveness to other people and a willingness to listen."
James Kouzes and Barry Posner
A understanding of ourselves . . .
"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."
Carl Jung