“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how
the nominal winner is often a real loser—in fees, expenses, and waste of time.”
Abraham Lincoln
Beyond right and wrong . . .
"Out beyond right and wrong, there is a field. I will meet you there."
Rumi
Aggressors always destroy themselves!
"In the end, the aggressors always destroy themselves, making way for others who know how to cooperate and get along. Life is much less a competitive struggle for survival than a triumph of cooperation and creativity."
Fritjof Capra
Change means . . .
“Change means movement. Movement means friction. Only in the friction-less vacuum of a nonexistent abstract world can movement or change occur without that abrasive friction of conflict.”
Saul Alinsky
The foundation is love!
"Nonviolence is the answer to the crucial political and moral questions of our time; the need for mankind to overcome oppression and violence without resorting to oppression and violence. Mankind must evolve for all human conflict a method which rejects revenge, aggression, and retaliation. The foundation of such a method is love."
Martin Luther King
Conflict and Diversity!
“Our ‘opponents’ are our co-creators, for they have something to give which we have not. The basis of all cooperative activity is integrated diversity.... What people often mean by getting rid of conflict is getting rid of diversity, and it is of the utmost importance that these should not be considered the same. We may wish to abolish conflict, but we cannot get rid of diversity. We must face life as it is and understand that diversity is its most essential feature... Fear of difference is dread of life itself. It is possible to conceive conflict as not necessarily a wasteful outbreak of incompatibilities, but a normal process by which socially valuable differences register themselves for the enrichment of all concerned.”
Mary Parker Follett
What is happiness?
"But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a person and the life he leads."
Albert Camus
Kindness!
"The highest form of wisdom is kindness."
The Talmud
An apology is . . .
"An apology is the superglue of life. It can repair just about anything."
Lynn Johnston
The only problem in your life . . .
“Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is... The only problem in your life is your mind's resistance to life as it unfolds. ”
Dan Millman
Things are just as they are!
"If you understand, things are just as they are; if you do not understand, things are just as they are."
Zen Proverb
The chiefest point of happiness . . .
"It is the chiefest point of happiness that a man is willing to be what he is."
Desiderius Erasmus
To choose one's attitude . . .
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances"
Victor Frankl
At the core of all anger . . .
"At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled."
Marshall Rosenberg
Fear makes . . .
"Fear makes the wolf bigger."
German Proverb
Peace in the outer world.
"We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves."
Dalai Lama